The Unsung Hero of Deep Intimacy
Why is this not spoken about more often??
REMINDER: Sex isn’t just about the act itself - it’s about what comes after, too.
The moments after sex are arguably the most important. Aftercare creates sacred moments when we choose to take time to rest together in the magic that we made - where connection deepens, nervous systems regulate, and both lovers feel seen, held, and cherished.
Here are my tips to make this time special and memorable...
Communicate your needs.
It may simply be a request to not rush off & check their phone right away, cuddles, or a check-in text sometime afterwards. Communicate what you need clearly to your lover. And, if for whatever reason you're not able to fulfil your partner's post-sexual needs, it's important to express that beforehand.
Take your time
What’s the rush? Seriously, what’s more important than spending a few moments with your beloved soaking up the after sex vibe? Don’t rush off - to take a shower, or to put the condom in the bin, or to check your phone … I promise you it can all wait, just for a few moments.
Cuddles and kisses.
Hold your lover, kiss them, tell them how much you appreciate and love them. This may sound simple but it’s often forgotten and it’s so important. And if this part of sex feels like a chore to you, then I invite you to ask yourself why you’re choosing to have sex with this person?
If it’s a quickie you want, say that.
I understand that sometimes that’s all there’s time for, or a quickie and back to work is just what you feel like. Remember to communicate what you want so that you're both on the same page with the fact there won’t be any intimate aftercare.
Whether it’s cuddling, words of affirmation, gentle touch, or simply lying in stillness together, aftercare is a powerful way to integrate the experience and nurture emotional and physical intimacy.
Prioritise it. Savour it. Let it be an extension of your pleasure ❤️🔥
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PLEASURE, THE WAY NATURE INTENDED. Pure crystal, perfectly crafted for deep, sensual connection.
Thank you.